Are you looking for a happiness “quick-fix”?

One of the things I’ve noticed about this blog is that the most popular posts are the ones about happiness.

(How to be happy, ways to be happier, etc…)

I guess that isn’t surprising.

In a way, that’s what it all comes down to.

Better time management… so you have more time to do things that make you feel happy.

Being more productive… so you have more time to do things that make you happy.

Being the person you want to be… i.e. happier.

And I have a sneaky feeling that we all click on posts about happiness, looking for that quick fix.

The resolution.

We’re kind of hoping for the pill we can take that will fix everything…

…or the button we can press to make everything right – or get everything how we want it.

You’re not alone!

Don’t get me wrong – I do this too.

I’m still looking for the magic button.

I’d love a magic button to whizz through my to-do list.

Bam!

And I’d seriously love a magic button to clean my apartment.

I’d press it every day!

Ping ping ping! 🙂

(How can that table have dust on it, when I literally just dusted it?!)

But the thing is, we know deep down that these magic fixers don’t exist.

And not only that, but they won’t really bring us the fulfillment we want anyway.

The way I see it, we wouldn’t look for a quick fix in other areas.

⇒ Relationship-wise, would you take the first guy/girl you ever met, and stay with them for the rest of your life, just to have a partner?

(Aside from having an arranged marriage, of course.)

⇒ If you’re looking to buy a house, would you take the first house you ever saw – even if it was shitty – just to have somewhere to live and be done with it?

No?

So why do we want a quick fix with our lives?!

The most important thing we have!

It’s like wanting to wind back the milometer to zero, rather than having the car serviced and parts replaced to keep it in top condition.

We want a button to zap through and get to the “happiness” part of life.

But I don’t think it works like that.

And I think you know that too.

It would be like someone else running a race for you, and you collecting the medal.

How would you feel, if this happened?

Would you still feel the glory of winning?

Probably not.

I mean, it sounds good, but you know inside it would feel hollow.

So keep this in mind next time you just want that quick fix.

You gotta run the race yourself to win the medal…

…whatever the race (or medal) is for you.

So let’s stop looking for the quick fix, and start focusing on putting one foot in front of the other to move along our own particular weird/wonderful life journey.

A quick fix can be easily taken away.

But prep, and commitment, and taking the time to figure out what you really want and what really lights you on fire… well, those are some pretty good building blocks.

What do you think?

Do you find yourself looking for a quick fix, more often than not?

What could you look for instead?

What does “running the race” mean – for you?

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